July 01, 2008

4 Steps to Let Go of Anger

From a Presentation titled "Positive Energy," by Judith Orloff, M.D., we are given 4 steps to help us diffuse our anger. 

 Anger, an intense sense of displeasure and antagonism, comes from the Latin angere, "to strangle." We get angry at those who've harmed us, aggravated us, or let us down. We get angry at ourselves. At God.  Sometimes anger becomes a mask for fear or hurt; it also leads to resentments.  Anger is human, we all have it.   Anger is a toxic subtle energy. Seething in your system, it can eat you alive, or else dangerously erupt. Keep in mind: Those painfully polite churchgoing housewives turned ax murderers snapped from repressing anger, not from consciously expressing it.

Make changes now to disfuse anger that throws you off by following the 48-hour rule:

1. Quickly identify your source of anger. Impulsive, unconscious anger is the dangerous kind-it can hurt us, others, even break windows. To avoid unhappy repercussions, when anger hits, slow down your reaction. Immediately identify the cause, but don't go on the attack.

2. Give yourself permission to rant for 48 hours max. The worst thing you can do is squash anger: trying to contain this energy bomb will only explode your insides or cause you to passive-aggressively act it out. But now is not the time to confront the offender. For 48 hours, let lose and rail about the object of your anger by yourself, or with a therapist or friend. Doing so begins your healing by diffusing negative energy.

3. After 48 hours, start letting anger go. This means getting out of your ego (even if you're "right") and into self-preservation. Releasing anger is a process, but you can start now. I recommend writing in your journal to vent all the venom. Or keep praying to have it removed. Breather your anger out of the emotional energy center in the solar plexus; make sure it doesn't congeal. Take a few moments periodically to breathe calm in, and expel the toxicity of anger.

4. Express your anger to the offender. First, take a measure of the situation. If the person is nonreceptive, vindictive, or there's no positive gain (say with a tyrant boss), it may not be appropriate to express your anger directly. Instead use the above steps or minimize contact. If you think the person may be receptive, remember the goal is not to eviscerate him or her, but to get your point across and be heard...The offender may want to resolve differences or apologize. If not, don't fuel antagonism or engage in a power struggle. Stay firm and centered in the knowledge that you've expressed your truth. You might say, "I respect your feelings, but we have to agree to disagree. I'm sorry we can't resolve this right now."

Resource:  Beliefnet.com

June 30, 2008

Thoughts for the Day

"One of the early signs of sophistication is not giving way to all inclinations but rather sending your emotions to school so they will learn how to behave."   (Jim Rohn)



"Calmness is the cradle of power."   (

Josiah Gilbert Holland)


"If you can keep your head when all around you are losing theirs and blaming it on you, then the world is yours and all that's in it."    (Rudyard Kipling)

"Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth."  (Benjamin Disraeli)

June 28, 2008

Barbecue Grilling in the Backyard

With summer in full swing, the time is just right to head out of the kitchen and into the backyard for a little cooking al fresco. Whether a quiet evening at home with the family or a full-fledged block party, there's nothing quite like a meal freshly cooked and hot of the grill. Here are some grilling tips for novices and summer pros alike!

The All Important Grill

Gas vs. Charcoal: This one can spark heated debates between even the closest of friends. Gas cooks at an even temperature, is easy to use, and requires little clean up. Propane/gas grills are also healthier than charcoal grills

(charcoal-grilled meats contain more carcinogens).Charcoal is generally considered better for smoking and searing food, and many prefer the taste of food cooked on a charcoal grill. Charcoal grills are also less expensive that gas grills, and are somewhat more portable.

Material: For gas grills, stainless steel is the way to go. Grade 304 stainless steel is more durable than the cheaper grade 430, which will rust.

Cooking Area: If you're typically grilling for just your family or a small group of friends, a surface area of 600 to 900 square inches should be adequate. If you're planning on hosting larger events or keeping the grill fired up all summer, you will want to look for cooking areas of 1,000 square inches and up.

Gas Grill Tips

  • Look for models with a built-in thermometer.
  • Choose a grill with two or more distinct burners. This is crucial for times when you're cooking many different types of food at once, as well as for "indirect grilling".
  • Weatherproof covers will extend the life of the grill.

Charcoal Grill Tips

Direct Heat vs. Indirect Heat -
There are two main ways of cooking when usng a grill, each suited to specific dishes. Cooking with food squarely over the heat source is known as "direct heat" grilling. The food is cooked for shorter time spans, typically with the lid open. This type of grilling is appropriate for thin cuts of meats, kabobs, fillets and veggies.

Cooking larger, thicker portions of meat such as steaks, whole fish and roasts calls for grilling with indirect heat. With this technique, food is grilled just off of the heat source at temperatures around 350 degrees Fahrenheit. On a gas grill this typically involves leaving the outside burners on with the food centered over the dormant inside burner(s). With charcoal grills, the coals are bushed to the sides of the grill leaving a cooking area in the center. Cooking times with indirect heat are usually longer, and the lid is typically closed.

Fire it up -
You'll want to fire up the grill fifteen to twenty minutes before you start cooking to ensure that it reaches optimal temperature and kills any bacteria. Your grill should be 250 - 300 degrees Fahrenheit for low heat, 300 - 350 degrees Fahrenheit for medium, 350 - 400 degrees Fahrenheit for medium-high and 400 - 450 degrees Fahrenheit.

Don't Stick With It -
Expertly prepared foods can still end up stuck to your grill if you don't take proper precautions. Brush the grill vigorously at the end of the preheating period (the surface will be easier to clean when hot). Lightly coat the grill in vegetable oil (the easiest method is to soak a paper towel or dish towel in vegetable oil, then brush it along the grill using tongs). You can also lightly oil your food, although avoid overdoing it. Keep both a grilling spatula and barbeque tongs handy.

Mind the Flames -
It may look impressive to have flames bursting up through the grill to kiss your food, but flare ups are actually bad news. Flare ups cause carcinogens to accumulate on your food, char the outside of the food before the inside as fully cooked, and alter the taste of the grilled item. Flare ups occur when fat drips down into the heat source and catches fire. Help prevent flare-ups by choosing lean cuts of meat and by trimming off excess fat before you grill. When the heat is on, keep a squirt bottle of water handy to help you tame the flames.

Grill Baskets -
Grill baskets are ideal for small food items or food that is difficult to flip. There are two main styles of grill baskets, each with a different ideal use. The first is a deep set open-angled bowl (think a square-ish wok with vented holes), a design that is ideal for veggies and other small items that might otherwise slip through the grill grating. The other design is a thin wire basket with a long handle. The food (typically fish) is placed in the tray of the basket and the wire basket closed and latched around it. With this setup, you can now easily turn the item for even cooking.

Grill Master(s) -
Barbequing can be rewarding, but truth be told it ain't easy running the grill all by your lonesome. Set up a rotation to man the grill so that everyone gets a chance to enjoy the barbeque and no one person spends the whole afternoon feeling the heat.

Cross Hatching -
Line the meat up on the grill at a 45-degree angle away from yourself. In other words, if you think of the grill surface as a clock, point the meat towards 2 o'clock. Cook until a set of grill marks appears on the meat (use a spatula to gently lift the meat and look underneath). Once marks have appeared, turn the meat 45 degrees without flipping it over (using our clock analogy again, point the meat towards 10 o'clock). Flip the meat and repeat this process on the other side.


Resource:  Remax Realty, Kristina Jarczyk, Real Estate Agent

June 26, 2008

Facing Our Fears Biblically

Each of us goes through periods in our lives that cause us to be fearful and this can immobilize us from facing our fears.  The Bible offers us many ways to overcome anxiety and fear.  Here are 10 biblical passages that can offer you some solace and confidence.

 
I Will Fear No Evil

Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. (Psalm 23:4)
 
 
 I Will Help You

For I am the Lord, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you. (Isaiah 41:13)


You Will See The Deliverance

  Moses answered the people, "Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the Lord will bring you today. The Egyptians you see today you will never see again." (Exodus 14:13)


Be Strong and Courageous

Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. (Deuteronomy 31:6)


A Spirit of Power and Love

For God gave us not a spirit of fearfulness; but of power and love and discipline. (2 Timothy 1:7) (American Standard Version)
 

Of Whom Shall I Be Afraid?

  The Lord is my light and my salvation--whom shall I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life--of whom shall I be afraid? (Psalm 27:1)


The Angel Said To Her

But the angel said to her, "Do not be afraid, Mary, you have found favor with God." (Luke 1:30)


 
I Bring You Good News

But the angel said to them, "Do not be afraid. I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people." (Luke 2:10)


 
We Say With Confidence

So we say with confidence, "The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can Man do to me?" (Hebrews 13:6)
 

Peace I Leave With You

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. (John 14:27)


Resource:  Beliefnet.com

June 25, 2008

Ponderable Thoughts

 "The second mile -- the one for which you're not paid --generally yields more returns in the long run than    the first mile."   (Napoleon Hill)

 

"Happiness is not based on position, power, or prestige but on the relationship with other people that you love and respect."   (Author Unknown)



"As long as a man stands in his own way, everything seems to be in his way."  (Ralph Waldo Emerson)



"Try not to become a person of success, but rather to become a person of value."  (Albert Einstein)


The first step towards the solution of any problem is optimism.  (John Baines)
 

June 18, 2008

Ponderable Thoughts

 "If you want to get somewhere you have to know where you wantto go and how to get there. Then never, never, never give up."    ( Norman Vincent Peale, Author and Speaker )


Whoever is happy will make others happy, too.   (Mark Twain)


When you have nothing left but God, you become aware that God is enough.  (Guideposts)

 

The first step towards the solution of any problem is optimism.  (John Baines)

 

"Begin doing what you want to do now. We have only this moment,sparkling like a star in our hand -- and melting like a snowflake."   ( Marie Beyon Ray)

 

"Life is a great and wondrous mystery, and the only thing we know that we have for sure is what is right here and right now. Don't miss it."    (Leo Buscaglia)

 

 

 

 

June 17, 2008

The Courage Within Us

In a very enlightening article written by Karen Asp for Beliefnet.com, she points out that each and every one of us has all the courage we need, but just do not know how to bring it into play when we require it.  Read how we can become stronger individuals by employing skills and abilities that we already possess.

You don't have to be a world-class explorer or professional cyclist to have courage. Everybody needs it, but how do you get it, especially when you're like the lion before he discovered the Wizard of Oz?

As the lion had to learn, courage exists inside of you. You just have to dredge it up after years of burying it behind your safety zones.

The Inborn Courage in You

Everyone was born with courage. You may not remember learning how to walk, but you know you fell hundreds of times before you stood on your own. Learning to walk took courage. And you succeeded because you had little fear or doubt.

Eventually, that changed. Parents and other caregivers told you to be careful, to avoid dangers. Society, after all, values comfort over fulfillment. "We've been exposed to a barrage of messages that discourage us from being courageous," says Harold Bloomfield, MD, a Yale-trained psychiatrist and author of Making Peace With Your Past .

Your Adversity Quotient

As you grew up, you patterned your response to adversity on how people around you responded to difficulty. Paul G. Stoltz, PhD, president/CEO of Peak Learning International and author of Adversity Quotient , defines this reaction to adversity as the adversity quotient (AQ).

As a baby, your AQ is untested. By the time you're 12, thanks to your environment and situations you've faced, you've developed your AQ. "The higher your AQ," Stoltz says, "the better you're able to summon courage and tap your greatness in times of need."

Fortunately, your AQ can be strengthened.

Courage as a Necessity

Why do you need courage? Because courage will help you live your life the way you want. "Courage is learning to overcome fear," says Dr. Bloomfield, "and when you do that, you grow."

Today, courage is needed more than ever before. In polls that Stoltz conducted, 98% of people predicted more difficulty, chaos and uncertainty in their lives in the future. Stoltz says that 10 years ago, the average number of challenges people faced in a day was seven. Today, that number has risen to 23.

Linda Larsen, author of True Power , knows firsthand the power of courage. Over 20 years ago, she was kidnapped, raped and held hostage for over five hours. She summoned courage she didn't know she had and escaped. "My courage didn't let me down," she says. "Once you know courage is always in you, you can start learning to act more courageously in life."

Obstacles to Becoming Braver

There are, though, things that stand between you and your courageous self. Dr. Bloomfield lists the following obstacles:

  • Fear of change . Learning how to be less controlled by your fears is one key to becoming more courageous.
  • Either-or-thinking . You may think of yourself as a wimp and others as courageous, but there has to be a middle ground. You can live in a comfort zone, but you have to be willing to be courageous when it counts.
  • Fear of failure . Failure is an important part of success, and being courageous involves being willing to fail at times.
  • Lack of faith . Identify your self doubt so that you can act more courageously.
  • Personal fears . These are fears such as fear of taking responsibility for your life; fear of self-discovery; fear of losing control; fear of moving forward; and fear of making the wrong decision. Know that you are bigger than your fears. Follow your instincts, and if doubts emerge, shove them aside.

Finding Courage in Times of Need

Stoltz says you draw courage from what matters to you. "The changes you're willing to make are the ones that have the greatest significance," he says. For example, if you've been offered a job that will force you to move across the country but you don't care about the job, you'll have a hard time finding courage to make the move.

Once you've decided what matters, then follow these suggestions for becoming more courageous.

  • Recall previous times when you acted courageously. Did you move as a child and have to make new friends? Did you go away to college? "Focusing on times when you acted courageously will instill more courage in you," Larsen says, adding that you should also applaud yourself for showing courage.
  • Shift your focus. Don't worry about failing or disappointing other people, Larsen says. Worry instead about failing yourself.
  • Eliminate the words "wish," "hope" and "maybe" from your vocabulary. "These words erode your courage by filling you with doubt, fear or hesitation," says Dr. Bloomfield.
  • Do your homework. If appropriate, know the obstacles you might encounter. Talk with other people who were once in your shoes. But remember that no matter how much you analyze the situation, you'll still have unknown answers. "Courage doesn't mean waiting to act until you have no fear," explains Dr. Bloomfield. "Courage means living with heart and doing what you want when you're scared."
  • Surround yourself with courageous people , Larsen says. There will always be people who say never. Find people who support and believe in you.
  • Imagine what life will be like when your challenge has passed. "Courage can come from seeing past adversity and knowing that although it may be horrible now, it'll get better sometime," Stoltz says.
  • Give it your all but don't expect perfection , says Dr. Bloomfield. Don't give only 50%; then you can say later that you didn't succeed because you weren't trying that hard. To find courage, you must be willing to give 100%.
  • Once you've acted with courage, assess your response , Larsen says. Did acting with courage move you forward? If not, figure out how you would behave differently next time. If so, then bottle that courage, reward yourself, and always remember this time when you acted with courage in spite of your fears.

RESOURCES:

Dr. Harold Bloomfield
http://www.haroldbloomfield.com

Linda Larsen
http://www.lindalarsen.com

Peak Learning
http://www.peaklearning.com


June 12, 2008

Ponderable Thoughts

"Challenges can be stepping stones or stumbling blocks. It's
just a matter of how you view them."  (Author Unknown)

 
"If you have grown, if you have contributed, if you have loved if you have been loved -- then you have lived."
 (M. Burkill)

To dream of the person you would like to be is to waste the person you are.- (Proverb)
 

The world of achievement has always belonged to the optimist.  (Harold Wilkins)

 

Don't bother just to be better than your contemporaries or predecessors. Try to be better than yourself.   (William Faulkner)

June 10, 2008

A Thought for Today

 "Every day is a new day of learning. We can excel and exceed our own standards by consistently upgrading our outlook and attitude towards those around us. Our position, our power, our status... nothing is permanent. What will remain in fond memories of those around us is not the altitude of our achievements, but our attitude, acts of kindness, and consideration towards others."   ( CV Varghese )

June 03, 2008

Do you Remember???

The Adventures of Superman!

Background:
The plethora of inventions and technical advances of the early 1900's - such as powered flight and electricity - fuelled the imaginations of the American people, especially the younger generation. Authors such as Edgar Rice Burroughs and H.G. Wells added to this movement.

Schoolboys were particularly engrossed with anything to do with modern science. By mixing science with adventure, the result was a perfect blend, especially for kids like Jerry Siegel from Cleveland, Ohio. His enthusiasm led him to publish the fanzine Science Fiction with drawings by school buddy Joe Shuster. In January 1933 Siegel and Schuster produced a story called The Reign of the Superman and included it in Science Fiction. In this very first appearance of (the) superman, he was actually a baddie! His superhuman powers were due to the work of a demented professor and superman was mainly concerned with making some fast dollars!

Siegel never forgot the superman character and was determined to find him a bigger stage. After being turned down by various publishers, DC Comics took on the strip for the new Action Comics in 1939. Superman's re-launch was accompanied by a re-write of his origins. It was decided that he was now from alien stock. As a baby, he was sent by his father in a rocket from Krypton - a distant planet that was in the process of destruction. The rocket was pointed to Earth. When it landed he was found and placed in an orphanage where his carers marveled at his superhuman strength. He was then adopted by a kindly old couple, the Kents, who said he should keep his powers a secret for fear of frightening people. As he matured he decided he would dedicate his powers to the benefit of mankind and he became the champion of the oppressed.

The comic strip proved a tremendous success and there soon followed a Superman comic with the Superman strip as the title feature and lucrative newspaper spots. The Man of Steel, as he was also known, was set for a meteoric rise to stardom.

In 1940 DC Comics knew they were on to a winner. They asked freelancer Robert Maxwell and Frank Chase to get to work setting up licensing for merchandising rights. They were also charged with bringing Superman to a wider audience. Maxwell and Chase produced sample radio segments in order to attract sponsorship for a radio show. Once the sponsorship had been secured, the national radio show hit the airwaves in 1940 with Clayton Collyer playing the title role (and Clark Kent's role). This show became the birthplace of the famous opening lines:

"Faster than an airplane, more powerful than a locomotive, impervious to bullets!"
"Up in the sky—look!"
"It's a giant bird!"
"It's a plane!"
"It's SUPERMAN!"

It was the radio show - broadcast three times a week - that bedded down the superman character and his background. New characters such as arch genius criminal Lex Luthor were introduced as well as innovations such as Kryptonite and the Daily Planet newspaper. These developments were taken up by the comic strips which would find themselves in the wake of the radio show. As well as the famous opening lines, the character would often signal his transformation from Clark Kent to superman by stating: "This looks like a job for" [pause] "Superman!!", with the emphasis on the word "Superman".

Clayton Collyer (also known as Bud) also provided the voice for Superman in the cartoons that were released in 1941. Movie theater audiences marveled at the lavish productions by the Fleischer Studios using this relatively new medium and one of the cartoons was even nominated for an Oscar. In 1948 the first live action movie was produced starring Kirk Alien. This movie and the subsequent release of 1950 consisted of 15 segments (or chapters), forming a serial.

Bob Maxwell decided the time was right to bring Superman to the television, just as he and Frank Chase had done on the radio. He and Bernard Lubber, a film producer, started putting together the ingredients for a pilot show. Plans were made to release the pilot as a movie as a way of funding the tv project. If the tv series took off, the movie would be used as 2 (2 -part) episodes.

Maxwell asked long established DC Comics editor, script-writer and illustrator Whitney Ellsworth to produce the script. RKO Pathé's Culver City Studios and their production staff were booked and the actors cast. Maxwell decided to rely on experienced actors and booked George Reeves, a movie veteran who came to prominence as Stuart Tarleton in Gone with the Wind, in the title role as both Superman and Clark Kent. Phyllis Coates was cast as reporter Lois Lane. Coates was better known as a comedy actress, having featured in several "So You're..." movie shorts.

The idea for the movie was conceived entirely by Whitney Ellsworth and the script was fine-tuned between Ellsworth and Maxwell (jointly credited under pen-name Richard Fielding). Superman and the Mole Men was released as a movie in 1951. The following year, the first tv episode, Superman on Earth, was aired. 

The Format:
Superman's self-appointed role is to protect the human race from all manner of threats, usually from criminal masterminds, but occasionally from alien forces or from natural disasters using his superhuman powers.

The first episode Superman on Earth, recounts the story of how Superman came to exist on earth. He becomes a newspaper hack -under the guise of mild, almost timid Clark Kent - so that he can hear about impending disasters or criminal acts as early as possible. When the time comes for Superman to act, Clark secretly switches to the Man of Steel and saves the day. He is careful to avoid letting out the secret of his dual identity, even to his close friend and work mate Lois Lane.

Postscript:
George Reeves died of apparent suicide in 1959. Phyllis Coates left the show after the first show and was replaced as Lois Lane by Noel Neill.

Superman's creators, Jerry Siegel and Joe Shuster had sold the rights to Superman to DC Comics in 1939. Once they realized how big Superman would become, they tried unsuccessfully to sue DC Comics for a cut of the millions of dollars of income. It was only in 1975 that DC Comics made a settlement with the creators, allowing both to receive a generous pension. Joe Shuster died in 1992 and Jerry Siegel died in 1996.

Resource:  bygone tv.com

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