Having been a counselor for numerous years, I have seen and heard a plethra of reasons that people cannot sustain a relationship and/or marriage. However, the more I listened, the more it became evident to me that one of the main variables in the breakup of relationships is a lack of excitement and/or anticipation of excitement. This query motivated me to conduct an informal survey based on my counseling notes and my own observations. I believe that a marriage needs something to look forward to such as the husband and wife's first sexual encounter together and I believe that when two people co-habitate prior to their marriage they have robbed themselves of the excitement and anticipation of sharing the most intimate part of themselves with their new life-long mate. There is no passion to look forward to and there is very little left to learn of each other. This learning process as well as the first intimacies together help to establish a special bondding that occurs between a husband and a wife. I have also postulated that the decline in social morals is another contributing factor in the breakup of marriages. Commercials on TV as well as the blatant sexual content of prime-time shows continuosly expose us to sexually-orientated material and, over time creates almost an apathetic attitude towards sexually related things. My mother use to say if you see it all the time then there is no desire for it. I have to agree with her wisdom. Many of the couples that I worked with stated that they just didn't desire each other anymore. I blame this on the over-exposure of sexual material and a lack of self-respect for the bodies that God has given us. The bottom line, in my humble opinion, is that over exposure to a good thing is the culprit that nullifies the excitement once created by the good thing. Perhaps God had already figured out that to stay together a man and a woman needed to retain the passion they once had before their first sexual encounter. I am not hypothesizing that this is the only reason that divorces occur. I am, however, convinced that this over-exposure definitely plays a large role in the breakup of relatiionships.